I’m officially an “old” mom. Today at tae kwon do, I drove the kids because I needed to run an errand on that side of town, I was wrapped up in my book and not paying any notice to the kids on the floor beating the hell out of each other. In fact, this is what I pay money for each month – the chance for my boys to beat each other up in a “safe” way multiple times a week. Sometimes I forget what it’s like when your oldest child has just turned 10-11 and moved into the higher level classes.
I was reading and happily sucking down a GIANT Diet Coke when a hand grabbed my arm REALLY hard. I looked over to see a mom I have known for at least the past five years. She was MAD. She glared at me and said, “I don’t care if he is your son, I”m going to take him down.” I was oblivious. I looked out on the floor and saw this mom’s son crying and my oldest son patting his back and looking to the instructor for help in handling the situation. Their instructor handled it very well and the class continued.
I was a bit rankled at being man-handled, but the more I thought about it, the more I got it. I’ve watched the older boys work through the very awkward 10-13 years and they all (some more than once) were kicked square in the face or under the chin. As a mom it’s a horrible thing to watch. As a tkd participant, after sitting through classes for the past eight years, it seems to be a necessary step to moving up … once you’re kicked hard in the face or on the chin, you NEVER forget to guard your head. EVER.
Still, I was worried about the other mom. She and I have been friendly since her son was 5 and Andy was about 3. I like her a lot. She’s a big reader and I’ve enjoyed talking about books and just life in general with her. By the end of the class, she grabbed my arm again and apologized for over-reacting and promised me she’d never actually hurt one of my children. Whew! I let her know that I understood her reaction completely. Again. WHEW! I’m so happy she let it go as quickly as she did. Her son is fine.
The thing is, though, I’ve seen this play out so many times over the years that I have a hard time getting worked up. It’s Tae Kwon Do, not ballet, folks. At some point someone is going to get kicked and but hard. They’ll get over it and learn from it. Ten years ago, I could not have been so laissez-faire about it all. Now? Eh. I’m glad today’s episode ended on a friendly note all around.
I”m really thinking this whole episode seals me into the “old” mom category. Short of talking to the “young” moms about our guinea pigs (which would be weird even for me), I have nothing to say that they want to hear. I’m an “old” mom. How did this happen? Honestly, I don’t mind if your tkd kid kicks Andy in the head. And he’s my BABY! If your kid can get to his head, he deserves to be kicked. (charming, huh?)
OK – all you “young” moms go appreciate your short people and report back. Before you know it, you’ll be a bitter old woman like me.