I have been thinking about this a lot lately. I am by no stretch of the imagination what you could call an optimist. My way of coping with life is to jump to the worst case scenario, live it out in my mind and then work back to other, happier possibilities. If it’s a long drawn out worry, I do what I just said and then after reviewing short-term happy possibilities, I let my mind wander further into the future with even worse scenarios. For me it works (like you didn’t know I was weird). Imagining the worst helps me get it out of my system and lets me sleep at night and allows me to function during the day.
Mike is a true optimist. He fascinates me. He imagines the best out of every situation and that’s it. It’s an amazing gift to think his way. I guess it’s good we ended up together – balance, you know? I love throwing what-if’s in his direction just to see how differently his first response is compared to mine. Strangely, he doesn’t seem to enjoy my doomsday scenarios as much, so we don’t do this often.
I’m curious about you all – what are you – optimist/pessimist/future tripper? While I spend a lot of time imagining the worst, I do actively try to spend my days being happy with what we DO have. I read something once years ago about anxiety and the advice was to focus on the immediate. Do you have enough for today? It stuck with me and I think that everyday when I start to future trip and panic. I remember that, yes, we have enough for today. And then I think, heck, we have enough for everyone we know for today. That makes me calm and relatively happy and the day can proceed. Once it’s dark and quiet, I can proceed with my nightmare scenarios. (Really, I’m not insane, though reading through this, I might come across that way.)
I know everyone worries and everyone gets panicky about things. What are your coping mechanisms?